October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, and we are excited to feature several guest bloggers on this topic. Today’s post is from Jimmie C. Holland, MD, Wayne E. Chapman Chair in Psychiatric Oncology and Attending Psychiatrist at Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center. She offers these tips for families who are dealing with a recent diagnosis:
1) Communication is critically important between all members of the family. The more open and transparent it is, the better. Secrets usually turn out not to be helpful.
2) Recognition of the stress on all family members. There is often a need for a family member to take on a new role (eg managing the household, cooking and caring for the patient) while also assuring that the job of the breadwinner continues. The role changes are difficult, both for those taking the new role, and for the person who is ill who must relinquish control and prior role to others; a “new normal” must be accepted by all.
3) Frustration and even anger are going to occur; it should be identified as normal in these circumstances and become a topic for discussion among family members, often bringing them closer to one another by understanding how it feels to each one.
4) There are families who pull together under stress and become all the stronger for it. They usually manage without help. However, some families lack cohesiveness and members are unable to support one another as would be helpful. It is important that these families ask for help. The American Psychosocial Oncology Helpline can help you find counselors in your community who can help: 1-866-276-7443.
Jimmie C. Holland, MD
Wayne E. Chapman Chair in Psychiatric Oncology
Department of Psychiatry & Behavioral Sciences
Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center